Let’s talk about SEX… on the first day.

Let’s be clear sex on the first day of meeting someone doesn’t mean ANYTHING, in my opinion. I do not believe that men lose respect for you and I doubt if it’s even that big of a deal for them. Check out this link http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a4546/dont-have-sex-on-the-first-date/ ….we are talking about MEN!!! Not little boys….. a “man child” may tell all of his friends and make you out to be easy. (Shrugs)

You can easily have a very strong connection with someone the first day you meet them. People talk about love at first sight all the time right!! Well when people are in love they have sex. So what about sex at first sight? I always stick to my own life experiences … I love to share my stories with you!! So, me personally I have never had sex with anyone on the first day. RECAP! I haven’t lived life yet! I was with the same person my entire adult life. So if you have, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it!

My Question is: Do you believe that sex on the first day plays a part in a long term relationship and/or marriage?

I’m sure that people have sex on the first day of meeting each other, get married and stay together forever. No, I do not know anyone that has this story personally, but I’m sure it has happens. On the other hand there are women that make men wait 30, 60, 90 days or more without sex and still don’t have a long term relationship.


When you do real is the right time for sex?

I believe in protecting your body and not doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. DO NOT allow anyone to force you into ANTHING. Also, do not feel bad about anything you want to do with YOUR body. Let’s talk!! Comment below 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾

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53 thoughts on “Let’s talk about SEX… on the first day.

  1. In my opinion, I don’t think it’s a good idea to have sex on the first day of meeting someone. I believe that certain people may be feeling “lust” at first sight instead of love at first sight. Sex is a very intimate act to participate with someone you just met. I think it’s wiser to get to know the person before welcoming them into your “private” world.

    I saw this guy on campus and I thought he was super cute! But I never approached him. A few months later we ended up hanging out with mutual friends that we had. Then one day I approached him and asked him to hang out. I really liked him a lot but knew that I wanted to get to know him a little more to see what he was about! We had good vibes between each other and we were attracted to each other physically and mentally. But we chose not to have sex because it was too soon and we were only just getting to know each other. Now here we are 7 years together total and 2 years married! I believe if we would’ve rushed into a sexual relationship, we wouldn’t be together because we would’ve been sexually distracted and not be able to really get to know each other.

    Some people may be for sex on the first day and others may not agree with it, it all depends on the morals and standards a person has for themselves. Thanks for sharing this was an interesting topic!

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    1. Awe that is such a sweet love story. For me, I am very protective of who I give my body to. Other people are more “free” with their body. I love that we all of the freedom of choice when it comes to our sexuality. I try to understand it from both sides. Thanks so much for your comment. I checked out your blog and left a comment. I loved it!!

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  2. Me personally it depends on the motive and circumstances. If I’m on vacation and I meet someone and we hit it off instantly and one thing leads to another then so be it….. We enjoy the moment and the time we have together. Usually, that’s the end of that lol. Hooking up with someone “quickly” doesn’t mean I don’t have morals or standards it just means I’m comfortable in my skin and decided to act on what my body wanted. It’s just the same as when u have a drink with dinner knowing u have to drive home or u buy those shoes or a dress that u feel like u can’t leave the store without knowing it would throw off your budget. Of course some will argue it’s not the same but do we question folks’ morals and standards for those behaviors? No, but right is right and wrong is wrong and there are consequences to those actions as well and they too say something about your character. In my opinion, sex can be a game changer in relationships. It can keep ppl interested or drive ppl away depending on personal preference and perception. As long as you’re a consenting adult, I say whatever floats your boat at the speed u need, just do it! 🤷🏾‍♀️😂😂

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    1. Thanks so much for this comment!!!! It’s so true! At the end of the day NO ONE I repeat NO ONE has to right to judge or question anyone’s morals when we all have things we do that may be “frowned” upon. But hey whatever…live YOUR life! We have the right to make our own choices with OUR bodies. Just because one person wouldn’t do it doesn’t make it wrong or right!

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  3. I don’t mind having sex on the first date but I also don’t expect long term relationships either. I think it’s more about what sort of person you want to be and what you want the guys opinion of you to be.

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  4. “Sex on the first day”…
    *sigh*
    Are you ok with it?
    *yes*
    Then go ahead, it’s your body, do what you want with it and take whatever comes out of it.
    But if on the other hand it’s a *no*
    It’s also fine, it’s your body.
    *we shouldn’t judge*
    But we’ve got to put our kids(the future) in mind, they’re watching and learning. Though they’ll still become what they will and want, but what we do affect them, directly or indirectly.

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    1. Yes!!!!! I agree!! I feel like people have the right to do what makes them happy and like you said we shouldn’t judge. I think people need to protect themselves when having sex on the first day or 100th day unless they feel comfortable with having a child with that person. When people do these things with caution it doesn’t affect the kids, but most adults become a little irresponsible and that’s when choices start affecting others. Thanks so much for your comment!

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  5. I realize that I am older and my outlook maybe a lot different from most young people today. I have known people who had sex on the first date and got married. While I was in the military this happened a lot, because relationship developed quickly for fear either person would get resigned. While in graduate school I did a study on relationships like this; many did not last, because “they put the horse before the cart”. They did not get to know one another. Like one of the young ladies that posted stressed how important it is to get to know the one another first, they too came to that conclusion. No one knows the outcome of any relationship, but I said this before; I believe one should wait for marriage. I did not always ascribe to this way of think, but at my age now and looking back; I wish I had. I could have avoided a lot of hurt for me and those I love. Waiting could have resulted in a good and Godly husband for me and a good father for my children. To answer the question bluntly; I don’t believe that sex on the first date is wise at anytime and I did not believe it when I was younger. I have always seen this act of sexual intimacy like a puzzle; a man and woman’s body coming together as one, well all puzzles pieces don’t fit.

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  6. I agree, men have long term partners they disrespect more than a first date sexual encounter. It’s more about personality than the act and of course the lady wants it too… Its how people feel right?

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  7. Wriggle your toes. Move your attention from your toes, along and up your feet until it reaches your ankles. Slide up your shins slowly, feeling the shape of your bones until you reach up to your knees. Then move upwards from your knees and onto the bare skin of your thighs, slowly, delicately feeling your skin as you do so, and as you reach the top of your thighs, pause and rest your attention on the sensitive skin at the junction of your legs. For those of you who are new to this place, it is called private. Only allow access to those people you can trust to protect and cherish your feelings. You are valuable.
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      1. It’s not that I didn’t know what to say 😂, I just thought it was a really great comment. Your words gave me a visual of the point you were making. I completely agree that your body is suppose to be cherished, respected, and given to someone who appreciates you and all you have to offer.

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  8. I always believe that consenting adults should do what they want but have to deal with the consequences that may come. I’ve never had sex on the first date or a one night stand. I’ve always wanted to have a one night stand but haven’t had the opportunity. I do believe, for me at least, if you hook up with someone on the first date, the relationship will most likely become mostly sexual. I don’t believe men will want to get to know the person after getting the goods early. I wouldn’t hook up with someone that I had a great connection with because I think men will expect sex all the time. This topic kinda goes back to the convo about courting. If men already reach their goal after one date what reason do they have to continue to court the women? I don’t believe that all men think like this but a good number of them do.

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  9. As a gentleman of a certain age I am surprised and a little disappointed at how many of the comments try to preach a point of view. One or two say that is up to the individual, and that of course is the only answer. No one should live their life worrying about what others might think of their moral standards. We are all different, and most of us change, what we do at 18 or 20 we might not do at 38 or 40. And vice versa. Many ladies are more liberated when they reach maturity, and who is to criticise? My advice, which is as invalid as all those above, is carpe diem, and, especially, stay safe.

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    1. I really enjoyed this comment. I completely agree! People have the right to chose and be free to make their own choices. No one has the right to judge or say something is “wrong” because they wouldn’t do it. Thank You so much Ceayr.

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  10. Based on my own experience as a teenager and young adult in the 1970s, I can’t remember having a good solid relationship with anyone I had sex with on the first night, or even the second or third date. My best relationships have been with men who courted me, not because I was playing “hard to get” as we used to say, but because it gave us a chance to get to know each other and feel comfortable with each other first. If I had it to do over again, I would be more selective and more careful. But that’s coming from a 61 year old grandma. 🙂

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  12. On our first date, my eventual wife and I had sex. I was only 17 and she was 16. She was a sweet young thing and I was just a horn dog. A year and a half later we married. We celebrated our 42nd anniversary last January. I don’t think the sex on our first date had anything to do with the longevity of our relationship, but it didn’t hurt anything either.

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  13. This blog definitely caught my attention. I think about stuff like this all the time and everyone gave good responses to your blog.
    In my opinion I don’t necessarily think sex on the first means a woman is promiscuous and I also believe just because a woman makes a man wait 3 months or more means that she is a person with morals and high standards.
    Sometimes a woman may not have any intentions to having sex on the 1st date and still end up having sex by the end of the night becuase sometimes I do believe we do get caught up in the heat of the moment.
    Now tbh I do think it’s best if a woman would wait a little longer than the 1st date but at the same time having sex on the 1st date does not mean anything bad about a person.
    It’s your choice.
    It also depends where you met the guy and how long you’ve been talking with the guy.
    If you met him at school, church, or through a mutual friend and you both spoke on the phone or text each other for a little before the 1st date then there’s nothing with having sex on 1st date.
    Now if you meet a guy at a party or club and you both had sex the same night at a hotel or inside his car then I believe that’s being promiscuous.

    Sorry for the long response and nice blog 🖒🖒

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  14. See, we went on dates many times not as an official couple. We became an official couple during sex, yes during. I finally answered his question during it. Odd place for that to happen. I do not think sex on the first night plays a role in anything. I do believe a well balanced sex life in your relationship is what plays a role in a healthy marriage and long relationship. It is the need that people desire and sex is what helps the urge. Some people like myself, want it more often. So we look like we depend on it. Have a partner that requires it less than never is where things get tough. This unbalanced need of sex is where things get messy.
    Maybe I am off track of the question. But that is what I come up with. 🙂

    xox

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