Step 1 to the New Me!

I am truly trying to get my life back. This is literally the hardest thing ever! I stopped caring about how I looked after my failed relationship and after I became a mother…. I lost myself.

I’ve gained almost 100 pounds since I became pregnant with my first child and it was devastating to my self-esteem. In 10 months I went from 110 pounds to my current weight of 200 pounds. Throughout the past 8 years, I have completely lost my confidence, and I felt as bad as I looked. I am excited to say…THIS HAS COME TO AN END!

“You can have anything you want in life if you dress for it,” -legendary Hollywood costume designer Edith Head.

Step 1:

The first step I have taken to revamping myself is changing my appearance. I was frumpy as hell!!! I had to literally throw away about 98% of my clothes and shoes. I had clothes from 7 years ago (side eye), I looked at most of my clothes and really had to ask myself “Why Angelina Why”?!

Those oversized panties with the holes and bras that don’t even hold up 10% of my boobs…yeah those….. bye bye, they had to go too! I literally had underwear from my first pregnancy, 7 years ago! For years, I convinced myself that I didn’t have to money to look better or buy myself new things, but I was spending money on breakfast and lunch every day at work. I had to get my priorities in order!!!!

Story time: Disclaimer: This incident took place before I started working on the new me.

I woke up around 6 am one Saturday morning. The kids were still sleeping and their father was there; so I decided to get up and go to Home Depot. I wear my hair natural so like every morning, I woke up with an Afro. I went to the bathroom to brush my teeth and washed my face. After that, I went into my room and threw on a pair of black tights with a hole in the upper leg area and a black hoodie. I used my hands to put my hair into a low bun and threw on a hat. I was ready to head out until I looked at myself in the mirror. I literally cringed!  I looked like a zombie from the walking dead (yes that bad). At that point, I realized that I needed to do better with myself. Not just that day…EVERYDAY!!! So, I went back into the bathroom to shower and wash my hair, thank God for the Wash and Go! I put on a cute romper that I purchased the day before, light makeup, earrings and a few splashes of perfume.  I felt so much better about myself as I walked out of the door. It just so happened that I saw two people that I knew at Home Depot.  I was so thankful that they didn’t see me the way I originally planned to walk out of the house.


To complete step 1, I took myself on a small shopping spree. I bought nice panties and bra sets, cute sandals, work clothes and “going out” clothes. I vowed to myself to never.. EVER walk out of my door looking less than the woman that I am. My confidence has gone up so much! I no longer walk with my head down because I am ashamed of the too small pants and old shirt that I threw on for work. Every week I treat myself to one item to build my wardrobe. It’s exciting, and my style is growing along with me! This is only the first step and I have a long way to go!!!! Hope you following me on my journey! Let’s discuss step 2 tomorrow!

36 thoughts on “Step 1 to the New Me!

  1. i loveeeeee this. I love how you admitted that there was a problem and you have rectified it. I’ve had those cringe-worthy days too chile. Sometimes we get so caught up in everything that we do, that we forget to take care of ourselves. and dressing up , getting your hair done, and putting on some light makeup really does make a difference. xoxoxoxoxox

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    1. Thank you soooo much! I am so excited to share this journey, I think so many women can relate! Yes! I have noticed a difference in my whole personality since I’ve been focusing on myself and not just being a mom. but a better woman.

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  2. Congrats to the NEW you!!! That old saying of if you look good, you feel good really does hold a lot of truth…like how you feel when you get your hair done. I noticed a few years back I was headed on that same road and am with ya….had to get myself in check! It’s so wonderful that you are sharing your journey here! You are very inspiring! Thank you!

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  3. The psychology of dress! Sometimes you have to start on the outside; to start feeling better on the inside. I used to have those day until I saw someone I had only seen a couple times, but I had been out with friends and this man was there; sitting at the table engaged in conversation. I looked so bad one day also going to Home Depot and I saw him, he did not recognize me and I was to embarrassed to tell them who I was, so I just walked away. I don’t go out anymore looking like I don’t care about myself.

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  4. as a mother of a two year old, i can relate. lately, i’ve been working on the way i look too. it can be easy to be lost on the comfy clothes, because, hey! they’re comfy and your kids don’t seem to notice. but they do: our self esteem isn’t the same.

    i wish i could build my wardrobe around the weight i’m currently in, but haven’t the money for it. also, i’m doing my best to loose weight {i gained 20 pounds without notice, a year after my son was born due to anxiety/depression}. for one hand i don’t want to waste money in clothes that i don’t plan to wear in the future, and for another i want to feel good in my skin right now.

    and there’s another thing, i don’t want to invest my money in poor products. i want high quality ones from brands that don’t explore the environment or the people. is that too much to ask? 🙂

    if you have any tips, i’d love to read them. and congratulations on the blog, it’s awesome. ❤

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    1. Being a mom can be be so tough on our self esteem but you got this!!! I also suffer from anxiety and depression from time to time because life gets stressful! Just keep your focus and complete your goals! You will lose those 20 pounds! Until then buy a nice shirt here or pants there just to get you through right now. That’s what I do. I plan to lose weight as well but I try to pick up one item a week just to look better and feel better about myself and overall appearance.

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